Boyfriend or Fiancé?

19 Sep

A few days ago I read a post about the word fiancé on The Knot. The writer doesn’t like it. Neither do I. It sounds outdated and a bit pretentious to me.

What solidified my dislike for it was placing an order at a restaurant about two months ago. After I placed our dinner order the person on the other end of the phone asked me if I was going to pick it up and I responded, “No, (pause) my fiancé is.” It simply didn’t feel or sound right to me.

Since I’ve been engaged I don’t know what to refer to Nick as. Before we got engaged we  talked about what to call each other, we’ve been together for a long time and girlfriend/boyfriend simply didn’t seem appropriate anymore. We came up with “life partners” but that sounded so silly and pretentious too, that we laughed about it.

However, even though I don’t often have to refer to him as anything other than his first name, I’ve dropped the word fiancé and now simply refer to him as my boyfriend, when need be. Although, I think I may just start referring to him as my beloved all the time, because it’s the title that truly describes what he is to me, as corny and as dorky as that may sound!

Do you like the word fiancé/fiancée? Do you use it? What do you refer to your significant other as, regardless of whether you’re engaged or not?

(Photo: My boyfriend and me)


One Response to “Boyfriend or Fiancé?”

  1. overthinkingmind September 26, 2012 at 8:09 pm #

    Such a lovely picture :)
    I really enjoyed this point and it’s an interesting term to consider. I personally am not a fan of it, then again I hate rings and have an engagement necklace so I guess I’m not the best person to respond. I’m not sure why but I feel it sounds a bit not complete, kind of like saying ‘the guy I’m seeing will be picking up the take-away’. Personally, I kind of avoid any situation where I have to call him anything but his name, kind of like I avoid any situation where I need to call my parents by their name. Good luck with your wedding :D

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